The One Question to Ask Yourself To Banish Negative Thoughts

Are they true?

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Yes, that is the question. The one question you need to ask yourself when you have so many thoughts running through your brain, not knowing how to cope with them all.

Research has shown that we can have about 85 thoughts on one topic.

No wonder we are stressed out!

Take yourself out of your brain right now. Observe. Doesn’t having 85 thoughts surrounding one topic sound ridiculous?


Topic: Exercising today.

Thoughts: I want to, but I’m lazy. I don’t have enough time. I’m not in shape enough to workout. I’m not going to make my class in time. It doesn’t work anyway. I don’t want to sweat. I’d rather eat ice-cream. I should exercise. I know I’ll feel great but… I have too much to do. I hate my workout clothes. My partner backed out. Happy hour sounds nice. Mmmmm wine. My sneakers are ugly. Mmmmm wine. I’m tired.

I came up with 18 thoughts and I’m sure we could both keep going with this.

Here’s the truth: we all think these thoughts. But what separates those who will actually exercise versus those who will not is the ability to push out those negative thoughts. 

So ask yourself if any of those thoughts are true.

Once you can separate fact from fiction, it’s easy to push out the negative thoughts and gain access to your true self.

When asking yourself if you are going to exercise today, deep down you know you are going to feel fabulous, physically and mentally, if you just do it. I’m having the battle in my head as I type this! So guess what I’m going to do when I’m done writing?

This works when you have anxiety or nerves over something or are doubting yourself. Ask yourself if your thoughts are true. Step out of yourself for a minute.

You’ll realize that most of your thoughts are quite ridiculous. And maybe even get a good laugh out of it.

(You can always have a glass of wine after your workout with your dinner.) 🙂


  • I’ve never heard the “85 thoughts on one topic” statistic, but it makes so much sense. Love this article, Diana!

    • Thanks Kristen! I was surprised too…a mind-body coach I know has many of these statistics!