Being the Best Version of Yourself, Reclaiming Your Life, and Coming Out of Hiding

“It’s about unleashing your sexy. About finding yourself, accepting yourself, and being yourself. About living life the way you want to and the way you were meant to. About banishing crazy thoughts and stress-inducing emotions. About defining what balance means to you, staying centered in a swirling chaotic world, and unleashing that sexy woman you have been hiding. It’s about taking care of yourself and being the best YOU. All told through personal experience of struggles and coming out on top, mindful exercises, and cool tricks learned along the way.”

This is the comment I just wrote on this blog post by Ashley Ambirge in reply to her question on what my e-workbook is about that I’m currently putting together for you. Sure I’ve explained in blog posts, conversations, and emails what it’s about. But there was something about writing it down there, succinctly, that opened to my eyes to what this is really all about.

You deserve to be the best version of yourself. 

We all struggle. We all feel scared. We all are confused. We question our next steps. We worry about the future. We avoid making decisions.

We hide. 

Don’t worry, you’re definitely not the only one.

But think about it–what are you doing when you hide? You’re missing out.

You’re missing the opportunities. You’re missing deep connections. You’re missing the laugh-so-hard-your-face-hurts moments. You’re missing the I-can’t-get-enough-of-you moments. You’re missing the I-love-my-life moments. You’re missing the I-feel-so-sexy moments.

You’re missing life. 

And where is that getting you?

We put up walls because we don’t want to get hurt. Then if we feel a little bit of hurt, we build the wall higher until it’s so high that no one can get in, not even ourselves.

We sabotage ourselves from living life. From entering into a great relationship. From eating healthier meals. From taking that vacation. Even from trying out a new dance class at the gym. 

All because we don’t want to feel pain, embarrassment, jealous, vulnerable, or invisible.

What would happen if you knocked a few bricks off the wall? If you let that new guy/girl love you. If you started putting better food in your body. If you said forget it and put that lavish vacation on your credit card…or took a staycation in your own town. If you showed up to that dance class with your best workout gear on ready to try out those moves in front of everyone (no one cares about you anyway, they’re too concerned with themselves). 

What if you tried something new to help tear down the wall? What’s the worst that could happen? You feel a little pain. But at least you’ve learned. At least you’ve lived.

Try something new this week that makes you feel scared. Let me know how it goes. 

How do you want to feel? 


Reclaim your life. Regain control. Feel like you can take on the world.